Posted by annierose on May 6, 2007, at 8:16:33
In reply to The new T, posted by pfinstegg on May 6, 2007, at 7:32:32
I think both t's offices speak to the greater truth - their wives didn't help them pick out the furniture!
I like the fact he dresses so casually. Women have so much more leadway into casual acceptable dress. My t dresses casually, but professionally. Most men, especially my husband, feel more comfortable without a suit + tie. My husband is a law partner with an old-time established firm with dress codes for everyone on the payroll. He doesn't care - wears whatever and mocks the system.
I understand the needed restraint for twice weekly sessions. On the other hand, are you aching for a need to purge all that transpired? Do you imagine that your new t knows your former t, and if he has suffered an emotional break?
When I started the work with my t, I also sat up for about 4 - 5 months before she suggested lying on the couch. Then it took another month or so for me to have the courage to give it a try (I remembered telling her it felt like a train was rushing through my body).
Recently, when we had a rupture in our work, she suggested that I go back to sitting up to help me contain my emotions. That was scary too. It felt like a punishment, so I continue to lie down.
Complicated isn't it?
I admire your courage. I always looked up to you and your therapeutic relationship. Your husband has been a rock. You are blessed. I wish you all the best in this new adventure. Thank you for sharing.
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