Posted by pfinstegg on May 5, 2007, at 16:03:40
In reply to Re: He threw me out of his office!, posted by annierose on May 5, 2007, at 7:19:02
Thanks so much, annierose, zazenducke, muffled, Dinah, crushed, Peot, frida, gardnergirl- for all your support and understanding. It means the world to me.
I did get a letter afterwards (with bill), but it blamed me for what he called a "psychotic, deeply entrenched negative father-transference to him, which made further work impossible". This had never come up in therapy, and, even though there may have been some truth in it, I know it wasn't extreme. It was a minor part of the tranference; the longings for secure attachment were a lot more prominent. My husband and I both suspect what annierose suggested- that he may have begun to fall in love with me, or had some powerful, possibly negative counter-transference feelings, and dealt with them by becoming very negative and abusive. It's hard to believe such an experienced, highly thought of analyst would behave like that, and be unable to moderate his feelings by reflection or consultation. Another letter came about two months later, with no mention of what had occurred- just an invitation to return, and a statement that he was deeply committed to our therapy. I didn't respond to that.
Well...I forgot to mention "TRIGGER", but I should have, as so many people have varying issues about their own trust and attachment. I think what happened to me must be very rare and unusual, so I hope it won't worry anyone else.
Thank you again, everyone.
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