Posted by pfinstegg on May 7, 2007, at 7:51:36
In reply to Re: He threw me out of his office!, posted by pegasus on May 6, 2007, at 22:32:08
There must have been something going on , but I didn't have any sense of it. I thought I was doing well- going much more deeply into me; earlier in the analysis, I had gotten really angry at him from time to time, but that wasn't happening when the rupture occurred. I do think he kind of broke down, temporarily. My new T said that in a good analysis, the T is supposed to feel the unconscious feelings of the patient- that's important- but NOT, of course, act on them. Acting on them makes the T just like the old parents; reflecting on them, and acting in a new, empathic way provides us with the new experience we are all in need of.
As I get over the shock of what happened, I must admit that I miss the empathic, caring and humorous parts of the old T. But I did have them for four years. There's no going back, now.
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