Posted by littleone on February 5, 2007, at 19:39:14
In reply to Re: Telling T big bad secret memory » littleone, posted by Poet on February 5, 2007, at 10:57:57
> In therapy I’m starting to work on self-compassion/forgiveness, and I think that you being able to say that you would have protected yourself is a major leap of self-compassion.
Hi Poet, I think you’re right. Self-compassion is a very good description of it. It’s so hard, isn’t it? It’s still something I need to work hard at, it doesn’t come naturally to me. I recently made up some affirmations for myself that kind of keep reminding me and pushing me to accept, own, love and nurture myself. I think it would be a good idea to expand on them to include self-compassion. It’s a very important component of those things.
I was thinking about your self compassion list and wondered if you could feel a tiny bit of compassion for yourself because you’ve had to listen to a very harsh inner critic for so many years? Regardless of whether you deserve that criticism or not, can you empathise about how tiring/upsetting/hurtful it must feel to be constantly battered like that?
That thought kind of continues for me – I imagine a worker being constantly and harshly criticised by their boss. Even if the worker did really awful work, they are still a person with feelings and would get so beaten down by the criticism. I imagine that the worker would find it very difficult to do good work under those circumstances. The stress and pressure and demoralisation. I imagine that the worker would almost even feel like they’ve failed before they’ve even started on the job – but then they have to go ahead and do the job anyway. Do it knowing they will be beat up again afterwards.
I wish I could go and touch that worker’s hand. Let them know they aren’t alone. Let them know it’s not hopeless. Stand beside them and share the load a little and let them know that they matter to me.
Take care Poet.
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