Posted by Raindancer on October 26, 2006, at 18:53:51
In reply to Re: I need some help » Raindancer, posted by Amandafran on October 26, 2006, at 16:49:10
Amandafran, you seem to have a lot of courage. I would be very doubtful about people that predict your future and as for never being completely stable, I doubt that anyone is ever that. To a certain extent your friend is right in that you are no different from the person you were before your therapist told you his diagnosis. Remember you don't have to accept this label, which your therapist was unwilling to mention. If you look into your heart I think you might see that this is unimportant to him. The important thing to him will be you, Amandafran, which shows in his wanting you to have the tools of DBT available to you so you can live more effectively. He certainly won't want to fit you into a mould that will restrict your growth. You say "everyone is fine except me". I think a lot of people look fine when they are not really OK. Training to be a T is tough, but you will know that you learn a lot about accepting yourself and others as you train and this can also be healing. Therapyisn't at all black and white, with a sick client and a healthy T, just shades of grey and on occasions I do believe that the client can be on better form than the T. But it is the T that has the training and keeps the boundaries and strives to keep the client safe. The mere fact that you care about being "sicker" than the client means that you already care a great deal.
Sorry to ramble on. I really care about you and think you're great.R.
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