Posted by ElaineM on October 1, 2006, at 17:45:11
In reply to Re: way back last Friday » ElaineM, posted by muffled on September 30, 2006, at 19:17:27
Thanks for saying that Muff. (you're not off base) I know he's not a "T". I've known that for awhile now. But knowing that, I'm not sure that I need "therapy". I think I do need a friend. I think I needed that more than anything. I'm reluctant to give up the formality that the T label still provides though. I do believe he's more aware of what he can and can't expect from me now. I think. Or maybe I'm silly and naive.
I have already talked with him about his past analysis' a few months ago when he was going through some Ex stuff. We talked about what he got from it those times, and what I think he needed to work more on. I've only got a layman's knowledge of conducting therapy but right away I brought up what I would've suggested that he worked on. I said he "deserved" to enter into therapy again, now. And that I would go with him if he liked. But (as you guessed) he said that it would just not be acceptable for someone in his position. He's someone that younger T's would go to for consultation. He said that in his postion, he just can't. Plus he's very much like me personality-wise, so I think he'd find it very difficult.
I don't think he's "disturbed" but maybe going through a late mid-life crisis. ALOT of it has to do with recent Ex relationship.
I don't know, I really think I'll just continue to try and recall what Ladydoc and LadyT have sounded like, the stock phrases I hate so much, the mirroring, etc. and try and "help" that way as much as I can. Most of the time I think he just wants a chance to say and feel the embarassing things that he has to cover up, or put away, while doing sessions with other clients or peers. And I can do that. Listening is one thing I can still manage. Though, maybe I am having a harder time with that then I think. It mostly has to do with one subject -- one that I really cannot cope with....
I small SI'd last night, and I think it was cause I wrote that "omitted paragraph" for yesterday's post. That, and cause I'm really scared and worried about meeting my new physician tomorrow. It's gonna be a testing-out meeting. Anyways, I kinda don't even care if I'm making myself look uglier by doing it. I miss my old doctor :(
Muff, your posts are always precious. I'm glad I have you to talk with.
blove, EL
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