Posted by llrrrpp on June 16, 2006, at 15:27:51
In reply to Re: can professionals keep this a secret? » Tamar, posted by ElaineM on June 16, 2006, at 15:05:41
Dear Elaine,
He may not be a bad person, but he's doing a bad job at being a therapist. His job is to help you. He may have even deluded himself into thinking that starting a more personal relationship is in your therapeutic interests. The fact that you have warning bells going off should tell you something. The fact that you are more concerned with helping HIM than helping ELAINE is also a big warning sign.Even given zero misconduct on his part, it's in your best interests as a client and a human being (especially a fragile human being) to terminate immediately and find a new T who will help give you perspective on this stuff. You aren't getting good perspecive right now. Your own thinking is distorted. And your T (who's supposed to be helping you figure out your true reflection in the funny house mirrors) is just showing you another distorted mirror.
This is not about him. He'll be fine. He's an adult. He's clearly flawed, but so are we all.
This is about you, and doing what you need to get better, and what you need to do to sort through a complicated relationship before it becomes a lot more complicated and a lot more damaging.
Best wishes Elaine,
I admire your openness, and I'm glad that you're able to communicate your conflicts to us.
-ll
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