Posted by Tamar on February 24, 2006, at 18:16:31
In reply to Re: I’ve changed my mind: it’s too scary (TRIGGERS) » Tamar, posted by Voce on February 24, 2006, at 15:47:49
> Tamar, I'm so so sorry. It's hard enough when we're in the session and the T is saying the RIGHT responses to our questions, but then when they mess up and we can't take care of ourselves...well...that can feel so terrible. He could have used that question so artfully to get to the question behind the question, but he didn't. I guess we can't fault him TOO much because he's human but he should've known better.
Either that, or he’s working from a theoretical perspective in which transference isn’t discussed… I *hate* that. Yeah, he could have got behind the question, but I don’t think he wanted to. And maybe it’s for reasons that are professional rather than personal, but I don’t think I can feel the difference.
> I agree with Dinah on this, I thought her post was right on. Everything is hurting you right now and therapy shouldn't be one of those things that hurts.
That’s true. Dinah’s very clever! And so are you… Yeah, I don’t want therapy to hurt.
> I hope you don't hurt yourself any more. :-(
> Voce
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> P.S. Does the desire to cut off your breasts have something to do with age states? Like, you don't want to be a woman, you just want to be a kid and be safe and not deal with the scariness of adulthood?I think you are probably onto something there. The 13 year-old doesn’t want to become a woman. I’ve talked to her quite a bit; she wants my therapist to be a father-figure as well as a lover-figure and she wants his permission to be a sexual person and for her body to change… She wants him to tell her that her teenage body is adorable; that having tiny breasts is sweet and that having only six pubic hairs is kinda cute. She wants him to be a little bit attracted to her, but in a safe and sensitive way. Ah, I love my fantasies…
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