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Re: Anyone remember the Babble pageant? » daisym

Posted by Voce on December 11, 2005, at 1:11:48

In reply to Re: Anyone remember the Babble pageant? » gardenergirl, posted by daisym on December 11, 2005, at 0:55:22

<I just can't do it. I've never had anyone treat me so gently and so respectfully so I can't "play" with this relationship. I can complain about it, cry about it, share funny moments or talk about his dress, his office or make light of a few other things. I just can't, can't go there with my feelings about him. (Yes, totally, I know, a good girl not wanting to get in trouble but it is more than that.)>

Thanks Daisy, for verbalizing what I couldn't. In my experience (and I'm guessing yours as well), my T respected my sexuality so much that to play like that in the context of our relationship would have been unthinkable. I wanted him desperately, yes, but when we worked through that desire, I found that I didn't want a sexual relationship with him; I wanted a perfect father.

If he had "egged me on" so to speak, I think it would have been glossing over the REAL issue. I can't judge Ally's T in this case because we don't know the CONTEXT, but I know that it wouldn't have worked for me.

I think also that it's impossible for a person to joke about an issue that is the most painful one for them. My feelings for him were painful. Still are. I was glad he only dealt in reality about it. To joke would have hurt me so much.


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