Posted by allisonross on November 10, 2005, at 10:56:39
In reply to Re: Happyflower, posted by happyflower on November 10, 2005, at 9:24:13
>Hey! happy little flower!
Hey! I am still here, my mind is still in a bit of a fog from last night concert. But I am going to take this slow. There is a lot to consider about all of this, and I am not one to make fast decisions on all of this.
I am like that, too; veeeeryyy cautious (why do you think it took me 31 years to get a divorce?! LOL, LOL)
> I don't feel like I am being used, I actually feel good about all of this.
I feel the same way; I get a LOT out of it, even tho it is in a sense, painful at the same time. I told my t that I would rather "be in pain....with him, than without him"
I will tell him my feelings when I am ready to do it and when I am certain exactly what it is I am feeling.
When told my t about my feelings, he handled them ever so delicately, sensitively, and gently. No one could have handled the conversation any more exquisitely.
I do know for sure is that I like him a lot and enjoy his company a lot.
Ditto.
If we were both single, it would be a great start to a relationship.
Same here. Two years of flirting! LOL
But we aren't so it is very complicated.
Very.
> I think he does have some feelings for me, but he is such a good T, and very respected by the community in a lot of areas,
Hey, my t is ALSO a pastor. Double-whammy, LOL!
I dought he will risk that to be with me,
i feel the same way, except he hasn't stopped!
regardless on how he feels. This is what I am expecting to happen.
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> So if we were meant to be, then we will be together, maybe it might be a long time from now.I've had the same thoughts. I knew we were connected/soul-mates from the beginning---the heart knows.
All I know is that we do share *something special* between us.
Ditto (after THREE years!)
I don't know if it will be anthing more that what we have now. But right now, it feels good to me, I enjoy the flirting, and I am being careful.
Same here; LOTS of flirting; but I (underline I) haven't crossed any boundaries.
I am ALWAYS very careful in my life,
This is ME...so very cautious. I joked with my t that the last thing I've ever been is: spontaneous! I think it all out, and then decide what the outcome might be, and so I don''t!
this is one of the first times I feel like throwing all caution to the wind, and go with my heart.
I feel EXACTLY the SAME way. Cautious, refined (well, except for my teasing ways),
but as I told my t, always used to Holding back, denying my passionate nature, and behaving, etc....
.but now (geeeez, Louise... after 3 years of flirting, seductive stuff, etc.....how long is one expected to hold back (meaning....me)
In the end, if all he can be to me was a therapist who helped me greatly in my life, I will still feel good about knowing him, even if I can't have everything I want.
Again, I feel EXACTLY the same. I even wrote him a poem (well, more than 1) about my gratitude at appearing like an angel in disguise to journey with me, while going thru the church uckiness.
For the FIRST time in my life, someone stood up for me. yes, i feel grateful, etc....but the love thing is about falling in love with someone you resonate with
(i never fell in love with any other therapists, so it isn't the Freud transference thing--although i am sure some will say so)We are alike in 28 different ways (I counted them, LOL)
Thanks for caring about me, it means a lot. I will still post about this, because you all have been a great help to me. I just don't want to upset anyone. :)
Hugs, n love [to all....who read this] , happy little concert player, Flower! Allison (Fairy-child), and sassy child!
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