Posted by Shortelise on September 28, 2005, at 0:37:35
In reply to Don't know how to bring this up with T (trigger?), posted by greyskyeyes on September 26, 2005, at 15:55:21
I can really sympathize with you.
My T has done a lot fo the "good parenting" I missed out on, and I have also been afraid to tell him the bad things. But I have. And he has been there, the same kind, understanding man as always.
Parents shouldn't stop lovong a child because that child does something bad. Just as we shouldn't reject a friend who makes a mistake or a lover, doctor, pet who makes a mistake. What the T can do is model good behaviour for us to learn from. So, you can expect her to be as kind and gentle and understanding as she usually is. Imagine that!! To be treated with kindness even when you've been bad! It's amazing. I kept waiting and waiting for the penny to drop, and although my T and I disagree on some things, it never has.
This was a very rich time for me in therapy when I got there. I am a BPD also, also high functioning, and therapy has helped so much. I don't have nearly as many snits as I used to, haven't had a meltdown in a long time.
ShortE
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