Posted by fairywings on September 29, 2005, at 21:20:01
In reply to Re: Don't know how to bring this up with T (trigge » fairywings, posted by greyskyeyes on September 29, 2005, at 9:19:51
> OMG!! That is so insensitive. Aren't they supposed to learn *not* to say those kinds of things in T school? What did you do? I would have walked out! (possibly with a w**nie twist on the way out the door, LOL)
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I didn't DO anything, it didn't "hit" me till later, and then I thought, "hey, wait a minute!" He said other mean things to me too. Some of them worse than that. I think they were either manipulative, or he had negative countertransference or something, I don't know. I'd say he was nice about 90% of the time, harsh 5%, mean 5%. It was weird, but I liked him anyway, still do, he's just different. I work with one of his partners now, and I like the partner much better as a T.
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> All the time! I imagined that he must be the perfect husband/ father. Which of course can't be true, but you know how fantasies go... :)(he was so jealous of the fact that our son started sleeping through the night at 7 weeks... as of 1 year his son STILL wasn't! nyah nyah)Yeah, fantasies.....ahhhh......; ) Your son slept through at 7 weeks?! NONE of ours slept through till 18 months! 2 of them until they were 2! I didn't get a full nights sleep for, I don't know, like 8 years!
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> Mmmm, I can understand that. I was hesitant at first - partly b/c I'm afraid she might unintentionally have a bias. whereas my husband can get very excited and emotional - sometimes he needs to be reined in! luckily she's starting to get the hang of 'handling' him. ;)
>It's good that she can see HE gets emotional, so she can see that it's not all you! ; )
> So I don't feel paranoid that she thinks I'm psychotic or something. And I can tell *my* version in private. :D
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Yeah, that makes a lot of sense, makes you have more of a sense of security. My husband isn't at all emotional, he's calm, calm, calm, just like my T. He really could be a T, but then I'd be jealous, so forget that! ; ) LOLfw
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