Posted by Tamar on September 27, 2005, at 11:10:36
In reply to Re: hm..., posted by cricket on September 27, 2005, at 8:14:48
Great post, cricket!
Interesting story about the prostitute and the monk. And your disagreement with the editor of the book makes a lot of sense.
It’s extremely interesting to me that people – ancient writers and modern interpreters – associate women’s seductiveness with prostitution, because I think most prostitutes aren’t doing it for the sex. Maybe the editor thought the prostitute was approaching the monk with a view to gratifying her sexual impulses, whereas your interpretation seems to recognise that her use of sex wasn’t about her own sexual fulfilment. And I think that’s an important distinction because I think women quite often use their sexuality in ways that are socially prescribed but aren’t in their own interests (e.g. flirting with unattractive men to be polite, or sleeping with people they don’t want to sleep with because of various social pressures). I think women are expected to behave in a sexual way, to be attractive, to massage men’s egos… and because it’s expected we sometimes do it, even if it’s not in our best interests.
I guess I’d like to live in a world where sexuality is expressed in a way that’s open and honest and where there’s no pressure, instead of as a cultural imperative that is both applauded and feared.
> I also agree with Tamar that there is definitely a sexual element to therapy. And at times there is an electric charge in that room between us. But right now it doesn't feel so much like let's take our clothes off and do it sexuality but more a desire to sit inside him and feel warm and comforted and have him sit inside me and say it's okay in here.
I love this description! Yeah, that’s exactly the sort of sexual element I like. I experienced something like that in one session and it was great. Like 10der said, I just keep reading your words over and over.
Tamar
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