Posted by happyflower on April 13, 2005, at 16:52:20
In reply to worst fear come true?, posted by pinkeye on April 13, 2005, at 14:02:25
I can feel your pain pinkeye (((((hugs))))))))
Your feelings are real and as hard as it is to feel them, you have come a long way in trusting. You finally trusted someone but the problem is that he can't return those feelings back to you. It wouldn't be ethic for him to. But one good thing is that you can see that you CAN trust. You have the ability to trust and in time you will find the right man. It is tough to trust. I have a hard time trusting too. But when you open yourself up, you might find the right guy for you. I did, and have been married for 11 years. I just started therpy and am learning to trust anyone other than my DH, and my kids. I am slowly trusting my T, but that scares me too because I don't want to get too attached to him. I see the pain in others who have been attached to their T's and I hope I don't have to go through that. I am trying to open myself up to have some real women friends. It is so hard, because my mother is my abuser, and forming friendships with other women is hard for me. But you can't meet people if you are closed off.
I bet you are more ready than you think, to open your life for the possiablity of love. I hope you do find real love, love that can be returned back to you.
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