Posted by Dinah on March 21, 2005, at 22:13:21
In reply to Re: countertransference in therapist LONG » Dinah, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 12:02:17
I didn't mean to discombobulate you.
Truth be told, I would have handled it a bit differently than your therapist did. I would have told you how I was feeling before implementing new boundaries. But she did it the way she did it and you have to work from there.
And I'm generally biased in favor of doing what works in a relationship, if it's one that's worth keeping. If you look at the long term prospects for the relationship surviving and thriving, you need to take her needs and limits into account too. Even though theoretically they're our therapists and we shouldn't need to worry about their needs. I never understood that concept, really. It's true up to a point, but how can it be completely true of someone you care about?
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