Posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 9:31:04
In reply to countertransference in therapist LONG, posted by LG04 on March 21, 2005, at 8:04:30
one more p.s.
the other piece of information i wanted to add is that i have this idealization transference with my therapist, which i am trying to let go of. it means that it's very hard for me when she is less than ideal. it is hard for me to accept her human-ness and weaknesses, i want her to perfect for many complex reasons. she also has this issue meaning that she has a hard time viewing herself as less than ideal also. so it's very hard for her to take in how much pain or hurt she can cause me and sometimes it's very hard for her to apologize. i think this also makes it hard for her to see how much power she really does have in this relationship.
we are just starting to deal with this idealization issue between us and how we fuel each other. it has potential for a lot of soul searching and a lot of healing. it's definitely something that i want to work on and obviously she is good for this b/c of how we feed in to each other and that we are both able to see it.
i'm adding this in b/c my question is, is this idealization transference causing me to take this in much harder than a person normally would if they didn't want to see their therapist as ideal? i am really trying to look at it from every angle and not just from my point of view. but i can't be objective. and i don't think she can be either. that's why i want to know what you all think.
thanks again.
LG04
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