Posted by Rigby on August 20, 2004, at 13:25:06
Hi All,
I was wondering. Last week in therapy I mentioned the first name of my partner's new therapist to my therapist. My therapist asked the last name of this other therapist. I told her and she seemed excited because she knew this therapist and really liked her. I didn't think much of it at the time but I think it sort of triggered a lot of boundary violation stuff she did with me in the beginning.
Question: would you consider this a boundary violation--her asking my partner's therapist's name? It seemed "off" to me.
Also, and this is just a "vibe" thing but I get that a therapist should be involved in your case but man, sometimes I just feel that she's *really* involved. She's said before to me that she was overly involved with me. More recently we talked about "rules" and her bending them. I asked how she bent the rules for me. She thought for a while and her response was: I spend an awful lot of time thinking about you (or something like that.) I just let that one go.
Another example: there's this guy I've been attracted to. Last week he told me he'd fallen in love with me. When I told my therapist this she said, "That's what you wanted, right?" And I said, "Did I say that?" And she responded YES so instantly and emphatically that it seemed WEIRD. Ack. Weird. I mean I actually had to laugh and I made a joke it was so emphatic.
Lately, especially, my life has gotten **really** complicated. I fear that it's triggering her stuff and it concerns me. She has said she and I are very much alike in someways and some stuff happening to me now, I know, parallels some stuff in her life.
Now more than ever I need to really know she's got my best interests in mind and I'm fairly concerned.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.
poster:Rigby
thread:379952
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20040812/msgs/379952.html