Posted by Rigby on August 22, 2004, at 12:11:46
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff, posted by lucy stone on August 20, 2004, at 13:59:39
Hi Lucy,
Thanks for your response. Yeah, I think that asking the therapist's name wasnt' a huge, huge deal but I think it just triggered her boundary stuff from way back more than anything. And she immediately brought it up this past week so I didn't even need to so that was a good catch on her end.
But yeah, I do think the, "I think about you alot" as an example of her admitting that she bends rules was and is a bit odd. I guess it's okay--as long as her extreme interest helps me I'm okay with it. She has told me that she has a therapist and somewhere along the line I think she said something about her discussing this with this person so she does get some level of supervision or advise from someone else (a good thing.)
When she instantly responded that I wanted this guy to fall in love with me it just seemed so hair-trigger. I dunno. Maybe she is empathizing but it felt like her emotions--her own emotions--were involved. Just a vibe but it makes me think. She then said, "Now that you've landed your prey, what are you going to do with him?" and I thought that was pretty nasty--like I'm some sorta black widow spider (yuck!)
We've discussed some of the stuff already, like boundary violations. We've talked about her life in parallel with mine. Note: she doesn't self-disclose left and right but I was referred to her by a friend who was roommates with her so I know a few details--not a lot but some basics. And I found this website an ex-boyfriend put up about her so I've got that info too which has been very strange (be careful what you Google.)
I guess though, on the whole, she does have my best interests at heart. I do think she struggles though with making sure she keeps her boundaries clear with me and I don't know why (her stuff.)
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