Posted by Susan47 on August 23, 2004, at 18:36:11
In reply to Re: Boundary Stuff » Susan47, posted by BigFish on August 23, 2004, at 18:09:45
I have an acquaintance who used to be a therapist, and he told me that if he felt a patient was transferring to him, he got another therapist into the action right away. He wasn't comfortable with that. And he talked to me about therapists who "need" their clients. Is it possible your therapist is one of these? Is he trying to encourage something legitimate for therapy, or something for himself? That's such a hard question for us little therapy-goers to answer isn't it? You've invested three and a half years; but you know you can take yourself away at any time, because the progress you've made you can take with you?
But it's so so hard to terminate with a therapist. I was wrenched away from mine even though I had these issues, maybe because of them I don't really know, will probably never know. I went/am going through the most painful blow to my self-esteem. But I *am* going to be all right, I think. Better than I was before I ever met my ex-therapist, which I'm sure is a good thing. However, there was collateral damage.
You probably have to decide when to cut the cord, at this point. It doesn't sound like he's going to do it. I know mine wouldn't have if I hadn't tested his patience to the limit. I tried that man. I was such an angry patient. I just realized, we're not clients as long as we're needy. Ew. My therapist always insisted on calling us "patients". I hated that. I used to call myself a client, d*** him.
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