Posted by TexasChic on May 12, 2004, at 16:59:01
In reply to Re: Re: Bellyaching etal » finelinebob, posted by 64bowtie on May 9, 2004, at 13:41:17
> My contention is that therapists are being trained to help overcome the wrong stuff, which is why the word "cure" is such a dirty word. Also, ever wonder why therapy just seems like "the same old stuff, just a different day!"...???
I think my therapist does do what you are saying most don't do. When I first went to her, she had me purchase a workbook on anxieties and phobias. I actually had homework! It was very enlightening too. I was able to figure out why I had the feelings I did, and decide that I was going to change my perspective in order to be a happier person.
We have made much progress in my stepping back and seeing my actions for what they are, why I behave that way, and how to change them if they make me unhappy. I'm not really explaining this very well but, its kind of like you've talked about stepping outside yourself and examining yourself honestly. Like recently, I just realized that the reason people disappoint me so often is because I set standards that are impossible for them to reach. By realizing that and *accepting* it, now I'll be able (hopefully) to set more reasonable standards, which in turn means I won't be as upset with people, which means I'll feel better.
Is this what you're talking about Rod?