Posted by crushedout on January 9, 2004, at 16:04:51
In reply to Difficult Questions » crushedout, posted by Rigby on January 9, 2004, at 15:47:57
> I think it's probably ideal if we all had gobs >of money to work through our stuff in session >with the therapist vs. outside emailing. I think >that that stuff comes in waves, at least for me, >where I have lots to dump. The more honest you >are though I think that the load gets lighter >and there's less need for processing outside the >sessions.
> > It's helpful to be as honest as I can about >my fantasies and feelings about her, right? >That's how you work through it? Because that's >what I've been doing lately (mostly by email).yeah, but my question is just that it's good to be totally honest about everything, right? and talk about it as much as i need to till i get it out of my system? I've been using email for the hard stuff because i can't do it face-to-face *yet*. but i think it'll get easier the more i know she knows (from my emails).
> This is hard. Although my understanding was >that *you* didn't owe her--that the insurance >company did?
nope, i do owe her, but the insurance company owes me and is giving me the runaround, which is part of why i've gotten into debt with her. but that's not her problem. she's out-of-network and doesn't bill insurance companies as a policy. she also doesn't allow clients to owe her money in general but has made an exception for me. i'm pissed at her (and told her this) because she was the one who first encouraged me to increase number of sessions (from once to twice a week, and then nudged me -- although she misremembers this -- toward three times) and when she first was suggesting this, she told me i could owe her money, that she completely trusted me (she'd known me for about a year at that point and i'm a SUPERresponsible person, especially when it comes to money). so now she's throwing this uneasiness at me and it just threw me for a loop because i really thought she was cool with it. (i feel stupid for thinking that now, too.)
but we're working this out, it's not really a huge deal. it just brought up a lot of difficult feelings for me. but i'm glad she finally told me how she was feeling. (more info than you needed)
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