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Difficult Questions crushedout

Posted by Rigby on January 9, 2004, at 15:47:57

In reply to Re: You're Doing Great Rigby, posted by crushedout on January 9, 2004, at 10:30:19

I think it's probably ideal if we all had gobs of money to work through our stuff in session with the therapist vs. outside emailing. I think that that stuff comes in waves, at least for me, where I have lots to dump. The more honest you are though I think that the load gets lighter and there's less need for processing outside the sessions.
> It's helpful to be as honest as I can about my fantasies and feelings about her, right? That's how you work through it? Because that's what I've been doing lately (mostly by email).

It sounds like she's made exceptions and really wants to help but it also sounds like you're a good person, sensitive to not trying to over-reach. Therapists aren't being paid for stuff outside of the time you spend with them so I kinda try and keep that in mind. Again, it doesn't seem like you stand the chance of going overboard simply because you're very self-aware.
> I hope I'm not driving her crazy because I've been contacting her outside of sessions kind of a lot. But I've been sort of in crisis mode and I'm not usually such a demanding client. I hope she understands.

This is hard. Although my understanding was that *you* didn't owe her--that the insurance company did? You could fault her for changing her story but it seems like she was trying to be really easy on bringing up the Reality of Money but now she may feel more comfortable confronting that since it sounds like Getting Real is the theme this week with her.
> Yesterday my crisis was about the fees I owe her. She admitted (after basically not being honest with me for awhile about this) that she was uneasy with me owing her money. That's totally understandable, but it came as a shock because she told me so many times that it was ok. So that brought up a lot of hard feelings for me, all of which I emailed her about.

Yeah, you gotta take care of reality and if you owe bucks and are only accruing more debt then, well, you gotta look at that. Getting A Life is never a bad idea--it's the execution that's a real bear.
>I'm really considering cutting back or taking a break for financial reasons, in addition to giving me some space to maybe find other things in my life to replace this obsession/crush.


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