Posted by Dinah on December 16, 2002, at 21:56:34
In reply to Re: Phil......., posted by Miller on December 16, 2002, at 0:27:16
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> I disagree with your opinion about me not being punished for past deeds. I have done horrible things. It may seem too "smooth" to you, but it is a reality. Even when good things happen in my life, I am unable to enjoy them. In the back of my mind I feel like I don't deserve it. If people knew the things I have done, and how I continue to think, they would not be so giving and generous to me. I couldn't blame them.
>Hi Miller. I've been thinking about your post all day. Coincidentally I've been reading a book on spirituality that contains a section on forgiving yourself.
From what I've seen of you on this board, I find it hard to believe your self assessment. You seem far too concerned for others, and far too quick to judge yourself. But I don't know you, and I can't really argue with you about whether or not you've done something terribly bad.
But you said "If people knew the things I have done, and how I continue to think...". That puts the actions in the past and the thoughts in the present. There is no sin in any sort of thoughts or feelings. Thoughts and feelings happen. They aren't right or wrong.
And even if you did do things that were wrong in the past, you need to show yourself the same forgiveness you would show others. If you regret what you've done, and have resolved not to do it again and have taken steps to make sure you won't do it again, you really need to forgive yourself. What's past is past and can't be changed. But the future is full of possibilities.
How would you like to be? And what steps have you or can you take to be that person?
poster:Dinah
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