Posted by Dr. Bob on December 17, 2006, at 2:04:13
In reply to please be civil, Dr. Bob » Dr. Bob, posted by LlurpsieBlossom on December 14, 2006, at 20:22:25
> I know you mean well, but I feel that you have done me an injustice. By including the word "too" and the modal verb "can" instead of "may", you presume to describe my grief as also including elements of "anger".
> Dr. Bob, please do not use my post to overgeneralize my feelings to others who may be grieving.
Sorry, I didn't mean to jump to conclusions about your feelings or those of others.
> I am angry about other things. I am not angry that pseudoname chose to take his own life. I am not angry about how I found out that pseudoname took his own life ("blaming the messenger", as it were). If I am angry, I cannot acknowledge it in this forum because I cannot find a civil way of communicating it (it's a rather specific anger). Also, for the record, I was angry before I found out about my friend's suicide, and I'm not sure that his suicide changed the intensity or quality of my anger.
Thanks for considering my question and sharing more about your feelings. Would you like some help communicating anger in a civil way?
Does anybody feel anger as part of their grief?