Posted by nukeme1(Mike) on January 22, 2004, at 16:15:27
In reply to Re: Help me get over her after a 6-year relationship! » nukeme1(Mike), posted by Mimi on January 22, 2004, at 13:54:08
Yeah, I guess you are right... the thing is I knew they were no longer friends on the third day because she told me that they were hugging and kissing (although no tongue because she associates french kissing with sex) the whol night. The thing that gets me is that I am a nice fun guy. I read an article today that crushed me. It basically said that women that are frigid usually are that way because they do not feel loved or secure or appreciated enough, that led me to thinking about all the times that she would talk about some things repeatedly and eventually I got to a point where I was saying...uh huh...ya...that would be cool but when it is the sixth time that someone tells you something that they are nuts about, evenutally, you lose interest. This really got me to thinking that maybe she didn't feel appreciated. although I was extremely caring except the two times that I snapped at her after she growled at me for wanting to initiate sex. I am usually a nice caring fun guy... I mean, for her birthday, I surprised her with a trip to quebec city (about 4 hours away by car) and I had booked a king size bed in the executive rooms at the hilton on the 18th floor...I mean, I really liked to surprise her by cleaning or doing the wash. I would even bring her lunches at her job and a slushie in the summer when it was hot when she didn't even expect me to appear. But I think that maybe, even though I did all those crazy things (even after 6 years..I loved her as much as the first week...even more so) Maybe she didn't feel secure or that I loved her as much as I did. I am so disturbed by the thought that she could think that my love was not genuine...she had even said that she felt like I was holding her and massaging her only to get sex...now I'll admit, my drive was through the roof with her because I loved her so deeply, But I loved making her happy as well, not everything I did was for sex. But now, I am also under the impression that maybe she is going to have sex all the time with this other guy, and that makes me just feel HORRIBLE because it has been 5 years of constant searching and effort to attempt to get her back into that kind of state, and with this new guy, she might just be giving it all away....this hurts me soo much....I feel so useless....geez.....how shitty can I feel....my life sux.
-Mike
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