Posted by Mimi on January 20, 2004, at 15:49:48
In reply to Re: Help me get over her after a 6-year relationship!, posted by nukeme1(Mike) on January 19, 2004, at 7:58:08
I'm depressed too because of the loss of my relationship. I was engaged for one year. I raged and wailed for two months after the break-up. Then I was flat out exhausted for two weeks. Now I am depressed and unable to get out of my own way. It all is quite challenging.
I have one word for you: CODEPENDENCE. Buy some books(or borrow them) on this. There's one called "The Language of Letting Go" by Melody Beattie (spelling?) I read a different one, "Codependent No More" by same author.
She has problems, but you have problems around rescuing people. Look into this.
"The only way out is through."
At this point, focus on your own grief. Believe me, that's a big enough job, i.e. forget about what she's doing; it will just drive you crazy. I know.
I'm 2 and 1/2 months out and still suffering.
I keep reaching out to friends. I wouldn't dream of going on a date right now. Maybe in a year or two.