Posted by JenStar on November 18, 2004, at 15:41:42
In reply to Re: It may not be as bad as I think., posted by Dinah on November 18, 2004, at 15:28:39
hi Dinah,
I think it's normal to have huge, dramatic ups and downs while you're starting this process. It's new, it's weird, it's stressful for all. If you still feel -- after a few weeks or months -- that your dad's care isn't adequate, by all means make other arrangements.But if they're taking good care of his basic needs, give it a chance and see how it works out. After the turmoil and hysteria of change wear off, maybe things will be better than expected!
About the social worker...what would be her vested interest in lying to YOU? Her job will go on whether or not your father is in her care. I'm sure that she's trying to find the right words to approach you, but hopefully she chose her job at least partly because she cares about families & helping people cope. If your gut tells you she's "bad" then you should fire her. But if it's just different, new, and weird to ahve someone other than you call the shots...give it a chance.
I'm rooting for you! I know it's going to get better soon.
JenStar
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