Posted by Dinah on November 18, 2004, at 8:10:49
In reply to Re: Good news (and bad news) update » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on November 18, 2004, at 7:59:09
So far everything has gone worse than if I hadn't gotten them involved.
And I don't think I like them. They lied to my mother and father, and I helped them, although I concentrated more on telling a version of the truth. How can I trust them not to lie to me too?
I have a meeting with the social worker, my father is in inpatient care where he does NOT belong, because all these people are in the very last stages of dying. They weren't even going to give him his meds or test his blood sugar.
All I wanted was some help in getting cooperation from my parents for a reasonable (not even ideal) quality of care at home. I didn't want what is happening. I was up sobbing at four am. I feel worse than I did before.
With my dogs, I'm not opposed to euthanasia. But I don't do it as soon as they start to die. I don't do it until they have only a few days left and won't have any quality of life. My father *can* have quality of life for a while. I can see not doing surgery or extreme measures that will only make him feel worse with not much hope of fixing anything. But their position seems more extreme.
And sticking him in a home against his will will be life shortening in itself. My father *hates* being around other people. He once said when he visited a home and heard and saw what was there that he could never live that way. The stress hormones in his body will shoot off the wall.
Plus, I've always been morally opposed to things like that. I just want them to get help. I don't want to force him into a living situation he doesn't want.
I can't do this, and now I'll be fighting them as well as my mom and dad. Even if I fire them, it might be too late.
It was a horrible mistake.
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