Posted by sfmom on April 16, 2004, at 13:29:48
In reply to Re: Rod... Oooops... Didn't know!, posted by geri122 on April 16, 2004, at 9:08:16
Ahhh, that really sucks Geri! I would be furious if my mom ever read my journals. Well, for all I know she may have and I just never found out about it, since she used to even open mail addressed to me! You have every right to feel violated because you have been--both your personal space and your trust have been violated. Go ahead and be mad at your mom right now, you won't stay mad at her forever. But LynneDa is right about a mother's love. It is stronger than almost anything. Yes, your mom crossed a line. But she did it out of concern for you, not to punish you but to help you. Geri, your mom loves you so much that she would be willing to have you mad at her so she could get some insight into how to help you. In fact, I bet your mom would even take your hate if, in turn, you got the help you needed. Moms can't take the pain away from our kids, but if we could, we would endure the pain a thousand times to spare our children. Just keep that in mind.
But, my concern really isn’t with your mom, it is with you. So, can you tell us what happened? Did you get home and your mom confronted you and told you she read your journals, or did you see that someone had been in your room and ask her? Also, what did she say? Was she upset? Angry? Sad? Did she tell your dad? Geri, it’s done now and noone can change that, let’s focus on what we can do to make it better. Now that she knows, do you want to try talking to her about it? If not, I bet you could make a deal with your mom that you talk to a therapist instead of to her for now. Your mom loves you more than anyone, I don’t condone what she did, but I do understand it.
Please write soon to let us know what’s going on. We’re pulling for you Geri!!!
> I thought i could trust my mom. Out of everyone in my family i thought i could trust her. The other day i went out to spend the night at my friendsm, just relax. Well come to find out that night she went through my stuff and read my journal. There are thoughts in there that no one knows, now she does. She broke the only trust in someone i had. I expected it from my dad but not from my mom. She knows everything.. and she still thinks i want to talk about it, Is this good. Hell no... my thoughts have been envaded. I will never be able to write anything down again. My head will become even more crazy. What do i do. You know last night i wanted to be mad at her but all i did was think about her feelings. What about mine. Do mine not count anymore. Aparently.
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> I do plan to go to college and get away. I want to go to Westminster, but now that i look at it, its not far enough away!
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