Posted by kara lynne on December 30, 2003, at 0:40:06
In reply to Re: Ex called my parents., posted by octopusprime on December 29, 2003, at 20:41:19
My parents...sigh. It almost seems like they work at finding the least supportive way of interacting with me.
As my father was telling me about the ex (ok, I was grilling for details) Gone With The Wind was on television. My mother was annoyed because I was talking during an important part. My father grumbled--(have you noticed sometimes a woman might tell you 43 different possible interpretations about a phone conversation and a guy will say nothing happened and get irritated?) and said there was really nothing to tell me.
What struck me was how a fictional story was far more important to my mother than the real one of her daughter's broken heart (sniff sniff). I wanted to make sure that my father hadn't gone and made golfing plans with him or anything, as my family seems to make a sport out of being disloyal. I did ask my father why he didn't respond to the ex in a way that would have been supportive of me and he answered that he was taken offguard. That much I can understand. Then the gag order went into effect, where I was obviously going to anger them if I said anymore about it. So the rest of the evening was spent in polite torture.
So actually they didn't want to talk about it--I did. But the message has already been given that they are very disappointed that things didn't work out. Implicit throughout is that I failed this one too, by not getting married and giving them grandchildren.
I will try and say what I need to to get by with them. It's a fine line--you can't say too much or it will disturb their viewing entertainment.
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