Posted by fallsfall on September 15, 2003, at 14:55:27
In reply to mama, posted by kara lynne on September 15, 2003, at 13:46:06
You took a walk! Good for you.
You called about a job prospect! Awesome.
Don't call him. His new girlfriend will have to live with his limited taste.
Kara, Until you are feeling a little better, don't call him. It WILL get better. Someone said above that you are now going through the reality that it is over. I think that is really true. But your life hasn't stopped in the meantime. Calling about a job prospect is BIG! I know it is hard to see yourself loving again, but I really think that you will. It will get better.
This is one of your quotes: "If I could just have felt secure in a relationship where my man wouldn't communicate, keep his word, and was bound to become verbally abusive from time to time. "
Why would you ever want to do this? Your next sentance said something about it being your fault that he did those bad things. I guess I don't see how you could force him to be quiet (did you put duct tape on his mouth?), force him to go back on his word (Did you make the things he promised impossible?), and I really don't see how you could have forced him to be verbally abusive. He talked for himself. He chose what to say. You did not CAUSE that.
The combination of this and saying goodbye to your therapist is an awful lot. If you think that your therapist could be helpful at all to you in this crisis, you might consider postponing letting him go. You just have an awful lot on your plate (and it ain't ice cream).
P.S. I had a large hot fudge sundae with Mint Explosion ice cream and marshmallow and nuts and a cherry. I wish I could tell you I feel all better, but at least there was a nice sugar high for a while.
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