Posted by noa on July 18, 2003, at 22:06:22
In reply to Going way, way down., posted by kara lynne on July 18, 2003, at 21:52:23
think of it this way--like an empirical experiment. You try several different strategies, and then you learn whether they work or not.
Now you have a clearer idea of the power struggle. I get the feeling that he just wants to "win"--not that he is ready to make the relationship better but that he must have the upper hand.
I dunno--it's dangerous for me to weigh in so heavily on this side, as it's possible that you'll decide to go back to him. But he sounds like a manipulative and abusive guy, imho. There, I said it.
I would guess that no contact is best for your well-being.
You deserve much better than this.
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