Posted by kara lynne on July 13, 2003, at 0:35:35
This woman has been helping me through the move--I've paid her for her help, but she's also been moral support. She has had contact with my ex so I don't have to. I only asked her to please not tell him where I lived or where I was moving, just please not to say anthing at all about that. She said of course.
Tonight he went over there to give her the last of my stuff and he was working her for information. She finally said, the greater***** area. It was vague, but I didn't even want him to know the county. For stupid reasons, it doesn't even really matter. I wanted to keep intrigue as much as not having him find me. I got visibly angry which I just don't do. I get annoyed, but I usually stuff the real anger to avoid confrontation and people hating me. This time I was audible--she was screaming and telling me it didn't make any difference, she hadn't told him really where I was moving. I said, couldn't I just have one request, and that was to tell him nothing.
We got off the phone. I called back and she wouldn't answer. I banged the floor with a water bottle and freaked the cat out, then I hit myself repeatedly with it. After the 3rd attempt at calling I left a message, apologizing for losing my temper. I said she was doing me a favor and that I was sorry. She was doing me a favor. And I should know from past experience that she just says things I don't want her to to people--she's done it in the past. But I so specifically asked her...
Most every time I've ever showed real anger, it means the end of the friendship or relationship. I know this woman thought I was being truly ridiculous, and she was pissed as hell at me.
Just so I don't feel ok for even a moment, which I was starting to.
poster:kara lynne
thread:241365
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