Posted by Rach on June 3, 2003, at 10:15:29
In reply to Re: Girls, girls.... » whiterabbit, posted by shar on June 2, 2003, at 18:26:27
I'm jumping in half way or perhaps at the very end, so tell me where to go if I'm butting in.
I am single. I haven't had a serious relationship in over two years. As most of you know, I am quite young. But I don't see there being any man out there who I could maintain a life long relationship with. I have lived by myself and been so independent and self sufficient for so long that the idea of a man confident enough to let me be my independent self without taking it as a personal ego bash is ridiculous. I've had such awful experiences with little boys pretending to be men recently.
I agree, it is much better to be single than to be in a false and disatisfied relationship. I will not allow myself to take part in anything false - because either I or the other person will get hurt, and I don't want to have any part of that. I have enough guilt and hurt already.
However, all that being said, it doesn't mean I don't long for someone. It would be nice to cook for more than one person, to be able to turn to a warm body in the middle of the night and whisper my dreams to. Ultimately, I would like that for myself, and I think people either take relationships for granted, or too lightly and thus enter into them for the sake of a relationship rather than for the person.
Wanting it doesn't make me unhappy all the time, though. Honestly, I go through periods of being unhappy and wishing I could have that for myself. I also find it hard when my friends who are into the relationship but not the guy dump me for that honeymoon period. But mostly I am just satisfied that I am a proud, independent woman who doesn't require a man for happiness. A man is not a need, just a want. And wants are not a requirement to happiness.
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