Posted by shar on June 2, 2003, at 18:26:27
In reply to Girls, girls...., posted by whiterabbit on June 2, 2003, at 10:05:06
WR-G:
I couldn't agree more with your sentiments about this young, pregnant woman in a bad situation that's bound not to get better...and I bet, gets worse. Unless, of course, a miracle occurs. Your reaction is a tribute to your empathy and compassion, and your anger is completely understandable! It's a good thing the two of us weren't there together! I can see us waiting for the hubby-dearest to get home....:)
> the LAST thing I want right now is a "new love". What the hell for? I spent all those years trying to make somebody else happy and I never got it right. So now it's time for ME.
...Amen, Sister White Rabbit! After my divorce, I moved out (didn't have a choice, actually, since he had very nicely manipulated the purchase of the house and surrounding land to come out of a 'gift' from his mom, which is not community property in Texas; even tho' I made house payments...oh, but I digress), I bought a manufactured home (yes, I am trailer house trash, as they say in some parts of Texas), furnished my bedroom with a SINGLE bed, and put a SINGLE bed in the guest room. I never in my life intended to let anyone set foot in my house or heart again. But...go figure...6 years later, I'm 51, starting the best relationship of my life as the REAL me this time, and we're sleeping on the futon in the living room because it makes into a double bed. hahahaha. God (or whomever) has such a great sense of humor...
> No rebound relationships, no blind dates, no prowling bars looking for some loser to mistreat me. I don't need no man to make me "complete".
AGREED!
> You guys don't either, take my word. Living single is better than selling your soul to be part of a couple.WORD UP!
>The "lonely divorcee", the "spinster" - those are stupid outdated terms.
AMEN!!
> Usually I'm not quite so militant,
...I've always been much more militant than most people can tolerate, so it's nice to see shades of it in others at times. :)
>This girl, who is a clerk or something in her office, has been coming in to work all red-eyed and depressed ever since she got pregnant. Seems like the baby wasn't planned and it wasn't something that the couple could really afford.
....I guess discussing abortion here would start WWIII...
>I yelled at my friend, "What the f@#$!
> does her husband do for a living!"
> "I think he's supposed to be a cabinet-maker or something. When he's working."
> "A CABINET-maker? With all that rickety beat-up crap they're using for furniture!"
> "Well, that's what she says..."
> "WHEN he's working, you say."
> "Well, apparently he can't keep a job. I knew it was pretty bad, sometimes she calls in sick when she doesn't have enough gas to get to work."
> "But he can afford to go drinking and fishing, what did she say? Three times a week?"
> "Which probably means five times a week."......Totally reasonable reaction, from where I sit.
> I was pretty angry, although I didn't know who to be angry at. Not that I had been a whole lot better off myself when I was a young and pregnant........oooh, me, too, and *really* sick from being pregnant, and no food. God, the memories THAT brings back. Plus, an abusive husband. Wow. Good thing I was 18, because I sure wouldn't stand still for any of that BS now! But, you know, I do remember feeling so dependent on his salary. I knew I could feed my son (nursing) when the time came, but I couldn't feed myself at that time without his income.
> By now you're saying alright Gracie, what's the point? I don't know, I have ADD. (That's my new excuse for everything.)...I'm so happy for you having an excuse for everything! I say, use it or lose it!
>But if I had a point, it would be - there are worse things than being man-less and child-less, a LOT worse things.
....AMEN AGAIN
>That poor little pregnant girl in the trailer, she needs to learn that. Her future looks pretty bleak from where I stand, and her baby's life isn't going to be much better.
....interesting, isn't it, that folks thought a mural would make a difference (I mean as opposed to taking up a collection and giving her money to move out or something that might change her life). You know I don't mean your murals aren't beautiful...I hope you know what I mean.
Shar
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