Posted by noa on April 22, 2003, at 8:51:59
In reply to Re: THANK YOU to everyone! » noa, posted by Fi on April 21, 2003, at 14:58:16
Thank you, Fi.
It turned out, though, that although her friend took her to the MRI and then to the internist for consult on pain meds, when it came to the appointment with the procedure doc, which was at the hospital, my Dad showed up unexpectedly, according to my mom's friend. So, he went into the meeting instead of the friend, who waited in the waiting room. I dunno, I think there are some tensions between Mom and her friend. Friend told me last night that my mom has been an "angry lady" in recent years and that friend has had to kind of watch her step with her. Oh well. So, my dad, who doesn't hear well, and my mom, who at that point was kind of high on hydrocodone, did this consult. When I spoke with mom last night she said to me, "You know, I'm not a doddering old fool!" I said, "I know you're not, but at the moment, I know you are taking some heavy duty pain medications and I know that they can affect alertness".
My brother isn't trusting my parents at all that they are telling the truth. When I talk to my mom, she sounds really quite reasonable, like she understood the risks and benefits of the procedure. In a conversation last night, my sister in law had told me she questions what kind of informed consent she could give in the medicated state she was in. But Mom actually quoted me the statistics the doc had given her--the procedure has an 85% success rate overall, and a 1% rate of risk of harm from leaking out and putting pressure on the spinal chord/nerves and causing more pain, but that this group of docs has done 150 of these procedures over the past 2 years and have never had this problem occur. Sounds pretty lucid, doesn't it?
I have to do some research on this procedure. I asked mom to ask the doc for the name of it, although I bet I can find out with a little net surfing.
Anyway, my other brother is going there today for a few days, and my plans are to go Thursday or Friday, possibly overlapping with him so all three of us can have a conversation with parents.
Thank you for the support. It is greatly appreciated and helpful.