Posted by wendy b. on March 7, 2003, at 8:41:23
In reply to Re: hugs, etc. » wendy b., posted by Miller on March 7, 2003, at 8:21:30
> Wendy,
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> You may have a really good idea for me. I am not sure if I would be able to share in a group situation, but it is definately worth a shot. If the group osn't too big, I may be able to.
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> It's funny that you said I seem to be strong. People see me as being very strong, but I never view myself that way. It's funny how we see ourselves. It's like the sound of your own voice. It never sounds the same on a recording as heard in your own ears.
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> Wendy, I hope things are going well for you. Thank you for the support and advise. I will let you know when/if I can find a group in my area.
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> :)
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> -Miller
Miller,(Wow, what a quick response!) Yeah, group size is important - more than 5 or so and it's probably too big for you (was for me). Therefore, AA meetings, etc., are not as comfortable for some of us. Also, specifically tuned to your own issues (depression, suicide) would be best. Learning to trust others is part of the therapeutic work, so it's a process...
Strong is a relative term, isn't it? I get the same thing from other people, and say the same as you: I don't perceive myself as strong. Just stubborn, maybe, like the bull. Or maybe a cockroach.. ok, not a beautiful image, but you know what I mean... Can't kill 'em, no matter how hard you stomp on 'em. Lasted for millennia, you know, the prototypical Thing That Won't Die. I use this as a mental image of myself when I need it. Sorta like Gregor Samsa in "The Metamorphosis"... (Hope that links to Kafka and not some picture-book on insects...)
I have other suggestions about group therapy, so ask any questions you may have, others here, too, will chime in, as you know. Also asking about others' group therapy experiences or advice on how to find the right group over on Psychological Babble could be helpful - people here are very generous.
hope today goes well for you, whatever you're up to,
W.
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