Posted by Augusta on December 3, 2001, at 13:50:55
In reply to Jealous, posted by Roo on December 3, 2001, at 12:46:45
> Please someone tell me this is all human.
Roo,
I would feel exactly as you do. I think such a reaction is both understandable and very human.
The most accurate way to understand it, I think, is that the situation causes you so much pain that you very naturally want to strike out at the cause of the pain and bring it to a halt. When you look at it that way, imho, there is not too much to wonder at.
My personal experience has been that love affairs can become friendships but only with a lot of work and, often, a bit of luck. And the "crunch point" comes, I think, when one of the parties begins a new relationship.
When I have been in your situation, I have needed to distance myself from the other for at least a period of time. For me, it would be impossible to remain close to my ex until I had done some major healing and jumped through some pretty formidable emotional hoops.
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