Posted by Kristi on September 30, 2001, at 23:26:47
In reply to Re: Getting it all out Kristi, posted by galtin on September 30, 2001, at 16:00:02
> More a question than anything else. I have wondered before whether a difference between females and males is that women fall in love with the person whereas men are captivated by the experience. So, the guys can take it (the experience) with them.
Very good question. And if that is the case, it kind of makes me feel a little better.... like, maybe I'm not to blame, it's nothing I did...
> Something similar happened to me--we were six days from our scheduled wedding when the other person fled. I didn't start getting over it until I talked about it with other people. Something about the talking helped me to integrate what had happened, instead of it continuing to exist as an event outside me. It went from feeling traumatic to feeling sad and it took quite awhile. No closure either and I still wish there could be. Maybe it will happen some day.
I'm sorry for you. I just get this gut wrenching feeling thinking of anyone going thru it... just because I know it so well. Maybe you are right. I am such a "private" person... I'm afraid to spill... that maybe people will run, and I'll be rejected again. It's just so safe to keep it inside. But who knows, I will heed your advice, and hopefully think of someone comfortable enough to do this with.> I feel the hurt and confusion in your post. I don't know what you should do or even if you should do anything. But if you haven't talked to people about it, that might help relieve the obsession. I detest talking about my emotions but when I do, I am amazed how healing it is.
I detest talking about my emotions. Wow... how in sinc I am with that statement. Ugh. I don't want to be that way... besides, I'm a woman... aren't I supposed to get it all out? :-) I was just brought up that it's week to cry, complain, etc. I do want to be healed tho. I keep thinking of that age old claim.... time heals all wounds. Thanks for reaching out.....
> galtin
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