Posted by Marie1 on August 8, 2001, at 17:33:23
In reply to Re: Alcoholic Friend (very long post) » Marie1, posted by Kingfish on August 8, 2001, at 16:39:46
Kingfish,
You brought up an interesting point about having a glass of wine on occasion. I have done that, but actually don't like to. My nose gets stuffy, my head foggy. Plus, even with one glass of wine, I feel it the next day. Sometimes I'm actually hung over or at the very least noticably less energetic the next day after only one or two glasses of wine. On the other hand, I really like the EFFECTS of alcohol; the way you feel when you continue to drink i.e., relaxed, increased sociability, lowered inhibitions, etc. So that's why I have to quit - it was too damaging physically, not to mention increased depression.
In my opinion, just having a glass of wine with dinner should be ok. If it helps you to relax or whatever, and you can stop at one, good on ya! I guess only you know if it's a problem. I'd be happy to offer support if you want/need it. Maybe knowing someone else is struggling at the same time can be helpful. Anyway, thanks for the kudos, and good luck to you.Marie
> Marie:
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> I'm currently struggling with giving up alcohol, or at least limiting it to a glass of wine with dinner, but then I'm probably in denial if I do that, aren't I? ;) This is because I, too, feel it's "helping to destroy my life." I don't know if I'm an alcoholic, but I'm still drinking, even though I really want to "heal" and it's interferring with my medication. So I understand the struggle, and say "Kudos to you" for quitting all summer!!
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> I think Dreamer's advice is unfortunately the most sound. I don't know about giving an ultimatum - only you could decide that. Do you think he needs to seek professional help as well (a pdoc or such)?
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> - K.
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