Posted by roo on April 24, 2001, at 8:42:00
In reply to Re: Coping with a relationship during depression, posted by Cary on April 23, 2001, at 19:25:47
I know...
Well, I can tell you that I told my boyfriend, just
how I told you: When I'm feeling shitty about myself,
I feel shitty about our relationship. It has nothing
to do with you, it has to do with how I'm feeling about
myself. When I'm feeling good about me, I'm feeling good
about us, etc. He didn't take it personally. I think it
probably hurts more not to know, b/c then they can interpret
it in more negative ways. This way they can think to themselves
that it's the depression, not them. I don't know how she'll take
it, but my boyfriend was okay with it. I personally think it's
better to talk about everything. Plus, once you know the pattern
for yourself, you won't act as distant or feel as guilty, b/c
you'll know you're just having a depression flare-up, and that
"the end" isn't in sight for the two of you.
poster:roo
thread:5761
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