Posted by wittgensteinz on May 4, 2011, at 13:13:15
In reply to Would like your thoughts_but PLEASE be gentle » wittgensteinz, posted by Annabelle Smith on May 3, 2011, at 20:32:07
Isn't it a question of 'before you've been there you can't really get it'?
I don't find your feelings toward your T weird or over the top. I think a lot of people in long-term therapy experience similarly strong feelings.
My therapist is a lot older than me (he's older than my real father i.e. past retirement age) - and he has come to feel very much like a father to me (I suspect he also has some fatherly feelings, but maybe I am mistaken) - over the past few years I've felt a mix of feelings toward him, some of which felt quite unacceptable to me - the intensity of the feelings has also varied over time (at times in the past I sometimes missed him terribly between sessions). I hope (and expect) that in years to come I will look back at my time in therapy with him as a very special and close relationship (albeit a necessarily one-sided one). He probably knows more about me than anyone else - so it's not surprising that that dynamic brings up strong feelings.
Do you feel that your therapist accepts the extent of your feelings toward him? Have you been able to share about them with him? I guess that's the most important thing - outsiders are likely to be annoying and insensitive as they just don't get what it's about.
Witti
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