Posted by Tabitha on May 4, 2011, at 0:30:15
In reply to Would like your thoughts_but PLEASE be gentle » wittgensteinz, posted by Annabelle Smith on May 3, 2011, at 20:32:07
That's a really good explanation. I think I get it.
You're in awful turmoil inside, even though you appear to be a pretty normal functioning person and can fake your way through a mall trip with an acquaintance.
It's not crazy, it's an attachment issue, lots of people have it to one degree or another.
It's not inappropriate to feel what you're feeling. It's a very common occurrence in therapy. Check the board archives-- you'll get the impression that the majority of therapy clients are 'in love' or obsessed with their therapists.
I think you're doing amazingly well to be able to function with that degree of inner turmoil.
I'm sorry about the experience with the shopping companion. Like many people, she heard your experience, tried to relate it to herself, and based the whole rest of the encounter on assuming it's a crush story, which is something she understands. It was her very limited way of connecting. I think you were wise to hold back and not gush out the real story with her. She wouldn't get it, and you might seem a little cuckoo. Kudos for surviving the trip! It's a skill to be able to share a little bit more truth without gushing, and if you don't have that skill yet, I think you chose the better option (silence).
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