Posted by Dinah on February 23, 2011, at 19:22:15
In reply to Re: I think the weather in h*ll must be chilly, posted by Daisym on February 23, 2011, at 13:33:09
Did you ever think you'd see the day? From the Dinah who swore to wrap myself around his legs like a cartoon character should he ever try to leave? He always swore I'd likely be the one who left him, and I thought he was out of his mind.
I think you truly understand the issue as I do. What you say about the roles in marriage is so true. Having someone taking care of me, even as I support and nurtured them, has always been very important to me. Even if that person was far from perfect. Even if I had to take care of them in many ways. My girlish dreams were always of marrying a much older man, although in the end I married in as much a true partnership as ever could be between two very different persons. My husband and I are within two months of each other in age, and very similar in many ways. We've always faced the world together. My father probably played the role of protector, even as I took care of him.
I can't help but feel I still do need that in my life, and am undecided whether my image of my therapist in the role is faltering because of something to do with him or something to do with me.
It does seem like a good thing, or rather that it should be a good thing. Not many people understand the real losses that come with growth, or how they can seem far greater than the gains. I get the sense that you truly do.
I do wish I could explain it to my therapist. Would you mind if I showed him your post? Sometimes he understands the words of others better than he understands my own. It would all be much better if he would mourn it instead of being so darn positive.
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thread:979635
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