Posted by Solstice on November 17, 2010, at 10:25:51
In reply to Re: an eternity, posted by annabelle smith on November 17, 2010, at 9:22:09
Annabelle -
Absolutely! Yes, I think you should talk to him about it - and showing him your post will make it easier. Tell him you've worried about it, but have found out that you apparently aren't the only one who has experienced it. He will understand it - and he most likely *expects* it to be taking place. For you to actually bring it up will say a lot to him about your desire to heal - and that's what he wants to see more than anything. When you walk out of there, you'll feel like a ton of weight has been lifted.. and you won't have to feel embarassed or ashamed. And actually, I think that *making* yourself bring it up, and the vulnerability that this creates for you, followed by his understanding response that lets you know that it is 'normal'.. all of that serves to provide the 'relationship (object) constancy' that you need. When it happens over and over again over a period of time... over many different things... eventually you will take the relationship with you inside of yourself. You will 'feel' him with you throughout the day. You'll hear things he's said to you.. and those things are all part of a wonderful process that will create a secure attachment.
Solstice
> Should I tell my therapist about all of this? He might already know, but I am not sure. Should I maybe even show him this post again? This is the thing that I feel the most embarrassed about and ashamed to discuss with him-- but I think it is important information for us.
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> As for the suggestions that you give, I appreciate them, but am terribly afraid and ashamed to ask him about any of them.
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