Posted by Dinah on October 14, 2010, at 6:11:55
In reply to Re: Attachment vs. transference » pegasus, posted by emmanuel98 on October 13, 2010, at 19:35:37
> I can still get myself into a state thinking that he will retire and could get sick or die and I will never even know about it or be able to help care for him. I am not part of his real life, no matter how important he is to me. He used to say, when we were seeing one another every week that he probably spent more time with me than he did with close friends, that I mattered a lot to him, that seeing me grow and change was a gift, that he cared a lot for me and there was a way in which he loved me too. But still, in his non-professional life, I don't have any place at all. And that can make me so sad, especially when I think how old he is getting.
I hate that part of the therapy arrangement. It seems so unnatural.