Posted by pegasus on October 18, 2010, at 9:36:33
In reply to Re: Attachment vs. transference » pegasus, posted by Daisym on October 15, 2010, at 13:55:38
> But when you label something as sensitive as feelings, it is easy to make the client (or anyone) feel like 1) this isn't real so it doesn't matter or 2) they are a therapy cliche and that can be mortifying or 3) both.
Yes! It's especially confusing because transference happens in response to real relational interactions in therapy. So, my response may be what anyone would respond, and/or it may be something that is colored (to varying degrees) by my past relationships. I *hate* being told that something that seems to me such a resonable response in the moment is "transference." Without acknowledging that maybe anyone would respond in a similar way, so maybe it has more to do with the T at times.
Daisy, congrats on your Ph.D.! What a wonderful accomplishment, and it also sounds like also a very productive way to cope with your divorce.