Posted by widget on April 2, 2010, at 15:54:47
In reply to Re: Dilemma in Therapy, posted by Willful on April 2, 2010, at 15:31:00
Yes, I have brought this up before, about 5 years ago. It was when I was first smitten and it was much more intense then. I did want to have sex with him, run away with him, marry him, whatever. It was extremely painful to go through. Now, however, I think I just want to know if he has any romantic feelings for me. I am thinking he will never tell me. I want to know why that would be harmful. Believe me, I do not expect to have sex with him! And, yes, I am married and do love my husband. But, nobody in this world understands and knows me like my therapist. This is what makes him so special. He is the type of person I hoped to find. My husband is a more logical, linear type. I know how much he loves me and truly needs me. I love him, too. But, there is something so very seductive about being truly understood and accepted as is. And, that's it. Love is love. Can you tell me your opinion about whether it would be detrimental for him to tell me if he has any feelings for me? If so, why? It would help me to understand this situation better to know this answer. I feel I am deeply in a power struggle with him to get what I want. I am tenacious when I want something and this I want very badly. Does it mean there is some issue underneath it all? Maybe. My father was completely rejecting of me and I do not think he loved me. I was a burden. What a joy to be told I am a diamond that was never before appreciated!
Frankly, this whole feeling of such unconditional acceptance is new for me. And, I like it! Its like I never tasted chocolate before, then I do, and I want more. Thanks for the response. I am completely safe with him.
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