Posted by Dinah on July 1, 2009, at 22:14:37
In reply to Re: Suddenly develop Dependent Personality Disorde » garnet71, posted by rskontos on July 1, 2009, at 22:00:29
One of the best things that my therapist ever drilled into my stubborn head, or slowly wore away there, was that there was nothing wrong with asking even if the answer was no.
I still get embarrassed, maybe even briefly shamed or humiliated, when I hear the "No". But my overall view of it is different than it used to be, and I can shake it off as long as the no was reasonably polite.
He says that if I ask, the answer *may* be no. But if I don't ask, the answer *will* be no, since no one can read my mind.