Posted by garnet71 on July 1, 2009, at 20:26:32
In reply to Re: Suddenly develop Dependent Personality Disorde » garnet71, posted by rskontos on July 1, 2009, at 12:29:15
Thanks for the comforting words. I always seem to assume, first emotional reaction - that everything is related to some kind of personal deficiency I have (comes from self esteem problems). While its silly to think one can 'suddenly' become a needy, dependent person, that's how these thoughts come about in my mind.
I really do need help, not needy, childlike help, but just regular, plain old social support help.
Yesterday I went to social services through my school and got help and support. Today I talked to my advisor and got help and support. It's true if you ask for help, there are people willing to offer support. People are just like that. Yesterday, I was thinking, if someone came to me for help, I'd be happy to help them. I have weird feelings (self esteem again) about getting any sort of 'special treatment', and its not really special treatment, but a new friend at school encouraged me to seek support as she used some of the same services. After talking to her about it, I saw her seeking help that she needed to be a lot healthier than my reluctance to ask....
There's only so much others can do, but there are a variety of things that can be done to make stressors more bearable, and I shouldn't be afraid to ask for help. I've really awakened to some of my hidden, underlying emotions, and these new realizations are tough to sort through at first. Someday I'll get there.